I was raised back in the 70’s and 80’s. It was a great time, no internet, no cell phones. My parents taught me about consequences at a very early age. Consequences are basically when you make a choice to do something, you accept responsibility for that choice. Some of the consequences I had as a child was pretty simple. For instance, if it was my night to wash dishes after dinner and I forgot, my dad would wake up as he was going to bed and tell me to get up and do them. I was pretty hard headed, so this happened a lot. Other consequences were about character, or maintenance or whatever. If you think about it, every thing you do in life has a consequence.
One of the biggest consequences I learned about was sex. I was taught early on, that if I had sex, there was always a chance that I could get pregnant. I was told that having sex meant that I was a woman, and if I got pregnant then I would be expected to be woman enough to accept that and be the best mom I could be.
I remember many close calls, and as a teenager that is what I thought it was. I eventually got pregnant during a separation from my first abusive ex husband. Here I was all alone, single, and barely 20 years old. Was it convenient? No. Was I too young to become a mother? Absolutely. Did I stand up and take responsibility? Yes I did! Was I the best mom I could be? Probably not, at that age I certainly make a lot of mistakes! Thank God children are forgiving and flexible! I considered my first son to be my salvation in many ways. He grounded me, he gave me an unconditional love that I had never known before! He totally depended on me, and at the end of the day, I was proud of the accomplishment!
He is a man now. He is very independent, happy and such a joy! He is the peace keeper in our family. I am so proud of him. I remember his biological dad contacting me when he was about two, and telling me that since it was the 90’s I should have just aborted him. What a sad world it would be without him in it! I have never regretted having him. Why would I have ever thought to punish a child for my decision to have sex? I wouldn’t have, and I don’t think anyone should.
I am saddened by women taking up the mantle to abort children claiming that it’s their body and their right. A woman’s right is to use birth control! If you aren’t ready to have a baby then don’t have sex. Their are ways to prevent it, and they are offered everywhere! Just because we have a uterus doesn’t make us God! We are no better than any other sex. Get off that high horse. Grow up, and use the birth control that’s available. If you happen to be blessed with a pregnancy, trust me when I say You got this! Grow that little one from scratch in your body. Feel that first little kick in your belly. Take it all in and enjoy it. That is where a real woman shines in my opinion! If you truly don’t think you can give your best your best, then put it up for adoption. There are lots of people that want a baby and can’t have one on their own.
I hope I don’t get a lot of back lash for speaking how I feel. Trust me when I say I don’t just anyone for doing what they feel they have to do. But stop looking at abortion as the first option you have. We are after women! We are strong enough to do this. We got this!